One of my family members spent most of his life in jail. It was strange because whenever he got out, he seemed to be totally disconnected from what was going on in the world. Cell phones, the internet, DVDs and “texting” were invented while he was incarcerated. More importantly, all of us—his children, parents, brothers, sisters, aunts, uncles, cousins and best friends-continued with our day to day lives- wondering every day (or at least every so often) whether he was “okay” or not. Before going to prison, when it came to making good decisions, he seemed most often to make the wrong choices for himself. When it came to handling conflict, he would do anything to avoid being “punked” or shamed into backing down or making a compromise. When it came to anger, he seemed to choose to express it through violence and confrontational approaches.