When Rachel asked me to help her husband find a job, I said no. You who know me know, I rarely say no. Especially to a challenge. But I told her, Pops (not his name, but what we call him) never does what I tell him to do. Everyone knows someone who won’t be moved. For example, I can get a CFO to change a budget item, but I can’t get my kid to drink orange juice. Put Grandma in the kitchen, and my son is quickly half-tanked on Minute-Maid.
We applied the Grandma theory to a discussion about, Who can help Pops? We settled on a mutual friend. I would pass the information along to the buddy, and the buddy would share the suggestions with Pops. This sounds complicated, but sometimes an indirect route is the best way to achieve results. In fact, most career plans now involve roundabouts.